Are men by nature polygamous?

[jacluts]

I, for one, refuse to believe it. But what do you guys think?

[WileECoyote]

"By nature" is an ambiguous phrase. Do you mean men are meant to cheat or that they have that drive to, but they won't necessarily obey that drive? We also have to talk about whether this is confined to the sexual realm or if it includes the realm of love.

SEXUALLY: I believe we all have the drive to. It's the animal side of being human. To want to have sex with someone. We don't need to follow it, though.

ROMANTICALLY (I.e., on the level of love): I believe this is possible. There are so many ways to love someone that you can actually love two people at the same time. It is in the nature of love. Again, we don't need to follow it.

What can I say...I believe in the power of choice. Especially in cases like this, where it is more within our control than most things in life.

[jacluts]

I meant more sexual in nature. That men will never be contented to do one person for the rest of their life. Love doesn't have to be involved; they can love one person but their "innate urges" will always drive them to seek novelty elsewhere. :cool:

[WileECoyote]

I meant more sexual in nature. That men will never be contented to do one person for the rest of their life. Love doesn't have to be involved; they can love one person but their "innate urges" will always drive them to seek novelty elsewhere. :cool:

I think contentment is all in the attitude of the person (some people are never satisfied and some are easily satisfied). So, I believe it's not up to nature to determine whether we will practice polygamy.

[ChinkyEyes]

I meant more sexual in nature. That men will never be contented to do one person for the rest of their life. Love doesn't have to be involved; they can love one person but their "innate urges" will always drive them to seek novelty elsewhere. :cool:

IMO. in general, men are polygamous. they are very visual creatures, thats why you cant expect a man to linger his sight on one woman..

but then again, its ok to look, as long as you dont act.:D

[rambo]

I think WileECoyote is perfectly on track. All of us, men or women, straight or gay, truly have that need to be with someone. I used to joke that instead of having a threesome, I'd rather have a whole harem where I can have more than just two partners at a given time. It's all in jest of course, but a fantasy worth considering if given the opportunity.

If some guy tells me that he never bothers to look at other women because he already has a wife or girlfriend is a liar. But because we're human, we have that capacity for "control". We were given the gift of "choice". We can always say "I choose not to engage in having multiple partners". Or "I choose not to let my eyes run wild when there's a hot girl around because my girlfriend is the jealous type".

[ChinkyEyes]

I think WileECoyote is perfectly on track. All of us, men or women, straight or gay, truly have that need to be with someone. I used to joke that instead of having a threesome, I'd rather have a whole harem where I can have more than just two partners at a given time. It's all in jest of course, but a fantasy worth considering if given the opportunity.

If some guy tells me that he never bothers to look at other women because he already has a wife or girlfriend is a liar. But because we're human, we have that capacity for "control". We were given the gift of "choice". We can always say "I choose not to engage in having multiple partners". Or "I choose not to let my eyes run wild when there's a hot girl around because my girlfriend is the jealous type".

i agree.. my friend once said to me.. all guys are sexual beings.. but if a guy doesnt know how to control his urges, then he is nothing more than an animal i.e. a dog.:D

[laydee]

i agree.. my friend once said to me.. all guys are sexual beings.. but if a guy doesnt know how to control his urges, then he is nothing more than an animal i.e. a dog.:D

ay nicely said.. hehehe.. both men and women naman have urges.. some guys lang kasi don't make efforts to control their urges coz society 'accepts' the thought na they are polygamous.

;) :p :) :o :rolleyes:

[dingo]

i agree.. my friend once said to me.. all guys are sexual beings.. but if a guy doesnt know how to control his urges, then he is nothing more than an animal i.e. a dog.:D I think rabbits would be a better metaphor... from a dog lover:D kaya nga yun ang symbol ng Playboy Magazine.

[rambo]

I think rabbits would be a better metaphor... from a dog lover:D kaya nga yun ang symbol ng Playboy Magazine.

on my next life, i wanna be a rabbit.

[ChinkyEyes]

I think rabbits would be a better metaphor... from a dog lover:D kaya nga yun ang symbol ng Playboy Magazine.

hahaha! u made me remember! :D rabbits daw kasi are the horniest animals.. ilagay mo lng ang isang pair sa kung saan.. dadami agad, parang magic:D

gosh! u shud see me blush everytime i see that logo.:D

[1/4]

men are not POLYGAMOUS BY NATURE... they BECOME POLYGAMOUS ONLY IF THEY CHOOSE TO BE!

In life, we all have 2 choices! to do what is right or to do what is wrong. we become what we choose to do.

[lithographia]

If you would state that nature demands men to be polygamous, then by all means women are directed by nature as well. The concept of natural selection demands that the best contributor to the gene pool are the ones given the chance to procreate. And all females will want to have the best candidate for the father. Meaning all the girls will be going for the same best guy.

And I've yet to meet a girl who didn't fancy Brad Pitt, Tom Cruise and the like--but it does not necessarily mean everyone will do something about it.

So I guess I'd have to agree that nature does push men to be attracted to the oppposite sex, but wanting to look doesn't really mean they'll be unfaithful.

[glenchuy]

I meant more sexual in nature. That men will never be contented to do one person for the rest of their life. Love doesn't have to be involved; they can love one person but their "innate urges" will always drive them to seek novelty elsewhere. :cool:

i speak only for myself. and the answer is yes.

in one lifetime, all men shall meet these types of women.

1.) someon to marry.
2.) someone to fall in love with.
3.) someone to show off and have as a trophy.
4.) someone to be best friends with.

rarely will a man find a women who fits all those characteristics above. but if it does fit, grab it. you'll never find someone else like it ever again.

In life, we all have 2 choices! to do what is right or to do what is wrong. we become what we choose to do.

in lifetime, we have 2 choices, to do what is right, or to do what we like. it is up to you to decide what you choose to do, rarely does it happen, that the choice you choose is both right and what you like.

usually i choose what is right. but there are times when my heart dictates that i choose what i like. things get screwed up somewhere along the line, but at least you're happy when you make a mistake.

[denz]

men are not POLYGAMOUS BY NATURE... they BECOME POLYGAMOUS ONLY IF THEY CHOOSE TO BE!

In life, we all have 2 choices! to do what is right or to do what is wrong. we become what we choose to do.

tama ka
and wala ring playboy sa mundo its a guys choice kng gusto niya maging palikero babaero

[jocaps]

Men are known to be more easily driven by sexual desire. But this does not mean that one cannot control it. There are example of men who have 0 sexual desire, because they have controlled themselves and finally came to this state (for instance strict buddhist monks, *some* priests and others who wish to strongly abhore sex). Desire can lead to bad things, like polygamous thought, as jacluts put it.

There are other things that a woman tends to have more desire on too, like for instance chocolate.. chocolate is a classical bait for women. But, again there are women who are able to control their desire to take chocolate.. aren't there?

[aniloves]

men.................
cant take sexy women out of their system
its a guy thing...

[lithographia]

A large part can also be from societal influences and the early relationship with the mother.

It's hard to convince a man to be monogamous when in his early years he has seen and observed how other people praise and applaud the exploits of machismo. More girls the better--like James Bond movies and the like.

Also if the mother was warm and caring--then cold and distant the next minute--it ususally results in a man's don flamenco attitude.

[redlittleteapot]

control.... control....control.....PEOPLE!!!;)

[waterbed]

Polygamous???

sa ngayon ok lang yan..

yung iba may control..alam ang priority(kung may pamilya o may gf)

wag lang manglalake..hehe

[ryanne86]

it's a matter of choice.
they can choose to be one or otherwise. :confused:

[SmashPalace]

men are not POLYGAMOUS BY NATURE... they BECOME POLYGAMOUS ONLY IF THEY CHOOSE TO BE!

In life, we all have 2 choices! to do what is right or to do what is wrong. we become what we choose to do. There will come a time in a man's life that he will meet someone who will turn his world upside down. Right or wrong what he will do in such a situation entirely depends on him. Speaking for myself, I'd rather go and just enjoy the ride and get it over with. What I dread the most is looking back at my life and shaking my head and thinking I should have done what I'm suppose to when the opportunity knocked. Oh yes, you can always be what you want to be.

[WileECoyote]

There will come a time in a man's life that he will meet someone who will turn his world upside down.

In a woman's life, too...They're not as innocent as they'd like us to think...

[Kate_Jones]

having read all these responses. i guess that since our normal dictates that this kind of behavioris acceptable, ok lang din sa mga guyz yun. personally i don't mind that my bf did some things before he met me. but if comes down to me, i would expect 100% loyalty and monogamy. dahil pag hindi, that would me hindi niya ako mahal:)

sa girls naman its really up to you what you want to do. but it would still be better to do what your parents think is right for you. so that when you meet the right guy for you, wala na siyang masasabi. then again, pag mahal ka rin naman ng magiging bf or husband mo, he will accept you for who you are







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[SmashPalace]

I'm sorry but you're completely missing the point, my dear Kate Jones. What we are, or I am for that matter, referring to is when you're already in a relationship or commitment.