Love is unfair

[snowflake]

Is there such a thing called as "Happily Ever After"? Well maybe yes but practically no. Guys most of the time end up with someone they love. Very lucky. They worked hard..do the best that they can just not to lose any chances from that special someone. Girls don't have that great powers. What happens most of the time is that girls end up with someone who loves them more. That's nice but the problem is they really don't love that person in the first place. There's no spark. They just learned to love them in return. How frustrating.

We do not have the power of "courtship" like men do. All we can do is to make friends with that special someone of ours. Smile everytime we see them and be the nicest person we can be just to be noticed. What's worse is that what if they don't communicate with us?... how can we build a relationship? Guys can be "makulit" it can build a bridge or gain "pogi-points" but for girls...it's a turn-off from guys.

A first move from a girl is usually a turn-off. Admit it guys. Especially when we say and express our true feelings. But life is a big chance. Though what was stated above is factual, still, I'm not losing hope to feel "the spark" from that special someone. I just hope that one day he'll stop dreaming and try to realize that there's someone special waiting for him.

[aNNiEsOn]

i've told some of my crushes that i like 'em.. but of cors, they don't like me back... though at first, its kinda scary but u'll get over it somehow..

for my recent crush.. i dropped alot of hints.. thru my actions.. my friends noticed it but i have no idea if he did.. though if he did, we're still friends.. i dare not to tell him that i like him coz our friendship is precious to me.. i'd rather sacrifice my likeness for him than our friendship..

love is really unfair.. for me.. :p

[jocaps]

For those who say love is unfair, I guess you don't know what real love means. I know at least one thing. There are two kinds of love, one is of romantic nature and the other of compassionate nature. The latter love is if a higher priority. You shouldn't be too much attached to the former one. If the latter is sacrificed from the former then the former is not a good love. The latter can be shared by anyone and can be shared even among animals and humans whilst the former is more selfish. If you understand this very well, you will know true love. ... and probably the latter will pivot you to the former one ... Oh gee... am I preaching again :eek: ..

hey I need more emoticons -_-; .. so little choices in this forum ^^;

[ChinkyEyes]

there is a side of me who wants to do the first move.. but somehow i just cant..

maybe ill try that later.;)

[WileECoyote]

A first move from a girl is usually a turn-off. Admit it guys. Especially when we say and express our true feelings. But life is a big chance.

Actually, it isn't necessarily a turn-off.

Just like women who reject some guys outright, some men reject some women outright. Just like some women are flattered and give the guy a chance, some men do the same.

Men enjoy it sometimes, too. It just depends where the love is coming from (and how it is shown). Maybe women just need to learn how to woo? Men had to, too.

[budgirl]

i think it's ok for girls to do the first move.. or let's just say, show welcome signs to the guy that she likes. girls too are equally entitled to let their/our feelings be known, as long as she doesnt go overboard.

[ChinkyEyes]

i think it's ok for girls to do the first move.. or let's just say, show welcome signs to the guy that she likes. girls too are equally entitled to let their/our feelings be known, as long as she doesnt go overboard.

"welcomes signs".. hmmm nice way to put it. :D

[ozzie]

... there's just too many things in the world that you'd claim unfair. It's just a matter of looking at the bright side and being optimistic that things are going to be fine and brighter days are ahead.

[jocaps]

i think it's ok for girls to do the first move.. or let's just say, show welcome signs to the guy that she likes. girls too are equally entitled to let their/our feelings be known, as long as she doesnt go overboard.

Pity our soceity who always have this stereotypical mentality that men makes the first move. I personally welcome the other way round too.

[leslie]

Is there such a thing called as "Happily Ever After"? Well maybe yes but practically no. Guys most of the time end up with someone they love. Very lucky. They worked hard..do the best that they can just not to lose any chances from that special someone. Girls don't have that great powers. What happens most of the time is that girls end up with someone who loves them more. That's nice but the problem is they really don't love that person in the first place. There's no spark. They just learned to love them in return. How frustrating.

We do not have the power of "courtship" like men do. All we can do is to make friends with that special someone of ours. Smile everytime we see them and be the nicest person we can be just to be noticed. What's worse is that what if they don't communicate with us?... how can we build a relationship? Guys can be "makulit" it can build a bridge or gain "pogi-points" but for girls...it's a turn-off from guys.

A first move from a girl is usually a turn-off. Admit it guys. Especially when we say and express our true feelings. But life is a big chance. Though what was stated above is factual, still, I'm not losing hope to feel "the spark" from that special someone. I just hope that one day he'll stop dreaming and try to realize that there's someone special waiting for him.

i believe in happily ever after. it may not be what we picture as our happy ever after but i believe its what GOD thinks is best for us. the things in our life always happen for a reason. if we surpass each one it makes us a stronger and better person. it always teaches us something. i knw there are people who will disagree and say "what about those who committed suicide and died? is that GOD's plan as well?". no it is not. we are given free will by GOD it is up to us to face the test. if we dnt have a strong hold to him then we get lured to doing things we dnt really want to do. i shud knw. ive been there. ive been to hell and back.

[soned]

depende na sa tao yan, if you are a woman and you grow old all alone, kahit na sabihin mong pretty ka, bakit kaya? bakit wala ka pang companion? kasalanan ba ng guy yun?

well for guys naman, it's not a sure thing rin, kasi even if we get to court the girl, it's still up to the girl to accept or reject us. At least kayo hintay lang. Of course you girls still have to do your share, basically, make yourself attractive. Treat it like a market and you are the product. gotta sell your wares and market it properly, otherwise walang bibili.

Guys fear rejection. kaya nga sometimes they dont make the first move, so sometimes u gotta drop a few hints like what shobe sam does hehe.;)

[ChinkyEyes]

Guys fear rejection. kaya nga sometimes they dont make the first move, so sometimes u gotta drop a few hints like what shobe sam does hehe.;)

do you mean HE.. fears rejection shobe sam?

[jocaps]

all is fair in love and war. ;)

No! .. Nothing is fair in war.. but in love its the total opposite.

[snowflake]

I appreciate everyone's opinion :)

[Miss_Hope]

but then, if you really love someone, you should fight for that feeling of yours, for your happiness. do not give up without fighting and end up wondering about the "what could have beens."

would you take the risk of losing him forever because you were too afraid to let him know of what you feel?

what if he feels the same way with you, too?

[rain18]

Love is sooooo unfair...... bakit pag nag mahal ka... yung mahal mo d ka kayang mahalin......huhuuuuhuhuhuhu

[leslie]

nothing in life is really fair. each individual is unique. just like education. diff person has a diff way of learning things. and diff pace catching up. if a teacher teaches fast to keep up with those fast learners the ones who needs time wont be able to catch up but if the teacher teaches at the pace of those then the fast learners will get bored. there shud be balance. nobody gets everything in life. it may appear some ppl have it all but u dnt knw what's under that picture perfect painting that u see.

[crazy_4_ldg]

i feel so sad...

ung mahal mo, di k nya mahal...

ung ngmmhal s iyo, di mo nmn kyang mhalin...

ang hirap at ang sakit...

alam ko na wla akong pg-asa s knya...

nkipg-break ako s bf ko dhil mhal ko p rin ung guy n mhal ko pero di nmn ako mhal...

alam ko nsktan ko ung bf ko pero ayaw kong lokohin xa...

akala ko nkpg-move on n ako s guy

kya cnagot ko ung bf ko

ng nkita ko ulit ung guy, ska ko nrealize n xa ung tunay kng mahal...

oh gosh...

ayw ko p nmng nnnkit ng feelings...

pero ayaw ko ng ptagalin...

bka pg ilihim ko p s knya ng mtgal, at nlaman nya sumday, mssktan xa ng lubos...

ang hirap...

:(

[redlittleteapot]

LOve is unfair...LiFe is always unfair too...sometimes:p

[enzie]

yeap!

Love is so UnfaiR?! y is it paRang coMMon na ung iF Love mo ung taong un,di ka mahaL then ung di mo mahaL,un ung nagmamahaL sau?!

that's so annoying...huh?! nakakaiNis!

haay naKu...BOY's aRe TOY's...hehe! joke lang!

[benzie]

hi guys....basta isa lang yan - don't ever be afraid of loving...it's a matter of not asking yourself in the future ung mga "what if's"...what if ginawa ko ito? what if ginawa ko un?...
basta you just don't give all sa umpisa, pakiramdaman mo ung sarili mo (it's a matter of giving urself enough respect and love)..kc kadalasan sating mga girls, gusto maging martir, then when everything's done...magse-self pity, db?
women power!!..just remember when you give love you have to be ready for the consequences whatever would that be..kc u didn't love if u're not ready to get hurt (just give it a thought, ok?).....(lalim ba? kaya nyo yan...)

[PinkPanther]

hi guys....basta isa lang yan - don't ever be afraid of loving...it's a matter of not asking yourself in the future ung mga "what if's"...what if ginawa ko ito? what if ginawa ko un?...
basta you just don't give all sa umpisa, pakiramdaman mo ung sarili mo (it's a matter of giving urself enough respect and love)..kc kadalasan sating mga girls, gusto maging martir, then when everything's done...magse-self pity, db?
women power!!..just remember when you give love you have to be ready for the consequences whatever would that be..kc u didn't love if u're not ready to get hurt (just give it a thought, ok?).....(lalim ba? kaya nyo yan...)


Who says everything should be fair? Life itself is not fair. People are different, change is the only thing constant in this world...so define fair? They say women and men are no treated equals... really? ....

[deCadena]

Who says everything should be fair? Life itself is not fair. People are different, change is the only thing constant in this world...so define fair? They say women and men are no treated equals... really? ....

kudos, life is indeed unfair if it was then our world be so much different from its current situation. Truth to the matter is we just have to face the facts and deal with it. It's not so much as to making life fair but rather grabbing opportunities as they come.

Cheers!

[benzie]

same as the saying na opportunity knocks only once....tama ba un? basta people must make out the most of every situation they're in...;)

loving without hurting is like not loving at all..it's rather selfish isn't it?

ayusin lng ang pagdadala nyan...

[bhear]

hay ang hirap ng buhay... its like a circle isn't it? when you fall in love.. than they don't love you back.. if you get 'em.. then it becomes mediocre... haya... the quest to find the "ideal" love.. if there's such a thing..

[kayenne]

i beg to differ. love and life IS fair. a season and a reason for everything. let's not get bitter about it. :)

[laydee]

hmm.. NO I don't think love is unfair.. coz we all have choices.. we can choose how to view and act upon love.. :)

;) :p :) :o :rolleyes:

[ivygrace]

just want to comment...

love is not unfair, love is everything that is BEAUTIFUL and KIND...GIVING and UNSELFISH...

it was always the lover who SUCKSSSSS!!!!

[bhear]

o well.. we should take a positive view of things around here.... :p

[jharn_jd]

me? i don't think love is unfair.. it really feels good wen you are inlove... you will appriciate all things arround you..maybe unfair if you feel that the one you expect will leave you.. or dont love you.. but we should accept the fact that love is beautiful.. love is God.. so love is not unfair..

[deCadena]

kayenne:

Love and life fair? I guess it varies from the perspective you are looking at. I was commenting on the retrospect and paronamic view of things.

Cheers!

[ivygrace]

o well.. we should take a positive view of things around here.... :p

okay pohttp://www.tsinoy.com/forum/images/icons/icon11.gif...i guess i have to rephrase my comment...

love is never unfair...it may bring us tears...it may bring us joy....
it may break us or heal us...
but no matter what...no matter what its imperfection and flaws...
love is still something worth living for...http://www.tsinoy.com/forum/images/icons/icon7.gif

[brawnless]

Is there such a thing called as "Happily Ever After"? Well maybe yes but practically no. Guys most of the time end up with someone they love. Very lucky. They worked hard..do the best that they can just not to lose any chances from that special someone. Girls don't have that great powers. What happens most of the time is that girls end up with someone who loves them more. That's nice but the problem is they really don't love that person in the first place. There's no spark. They just learned to love them in return. How frustrating.

We do not have the power of "courtship" like men do. All we can do is to make friends with that special someone of ours. Smile everytime we see them and be the nicest person we can be just to be noticed. What's worse is that what if they don't communicate with us?... how can we build a relationship? Guys can be "makulit" it can build a bridge or gain "pogi-points" but for girls...it's a turn-off from guys.

A first move from a girl is usually a turn-off. Admit it guys. Especially when we say and express our true feelings. But life is a big chance. Though what was stated above is factual, still, I'm not losing hope to feel "the spark" from that special someone. I just hope that one day he'll stop dreaming and try to realize that there's someone special waiting for him.

"Happily Ever After" and "Marrying the one you love" are not necessarily related. I know people who married "the one they love" but eventually got separated - and quite surprisingly - because of "another love". Also, I've attended a 50th wedding anniversary of a couple last year who were total strangers to each other until just a few days before getting married.

The "power of courtship" goes both ways. Only used differently.

[WileECoyote]

Love is not unfair. People and society, however, can be very unfair.

Let's get one things straight on girls who court guys: women turn down guys from the very start because they are too aggressive, not their type, or what have you. The turn-off power of courtship goes both ways, too. Some women are not my type, some women can be too aggressive, or whatever other reason I can think of.

It's about taste. If the guy is so conservative that any woman who courts him is bad, that's his way. It is not love's fault.

If a girl doesn't like a guy, the guy who courts her could be seen as a maniac or a stalker or something worse.

It's about the beloved's perspective. And, for some, it's about the lover's courage and moderation. And, usually, it's about the beloved's perspective and the lover's courage and moderation.

I know of some relationships that came into existence because of the woman. And I know of some relationships that never were because the woman didn't like the guy enough to give him two seconds of her time.

[ir0nweed]

just like life, no one said it's fair :) get over it! :) pop some cds

[TempestRider]

guys, i need ur advice..is it possible to love 2 people at the same time?

reason for my asking this: i think im inlove with my boyfriend but i still love my Ex..i know, im sooo bad..and i feel bad..:(

after 3 years, i received a call from my Ex, he was asking me if we cud meet since he just came back here..since my bf is soo darn busy, i decided to meet mith my ex, just a friendly date..but d moment i saw him, bumalik lahat lahat..i dunno, its as if 3 years hadnt passd..feelin ko bumalik lahat ng gud tyms namen,,and then he asked me,if i still feel the same way for him cz he told me his feelings hasnt changed,he still luvs me dw..grabe!i was so bad cz i said i still feel the same way for him but i have a bf now, he refused to believe it..now, he's bugging me to have a date with him again, and he said kame na daw ulit...tapos, he even texted me na kahit yoko na sakanya, he wont let me go, he said he wants to build a family with me beside him and that when he sees me daw with another guy, lagot daw ako..i dunno what to do anymore..i feel guilty, i know its my fault y im in deep sh*t ryt now, but please, somebdy help me..im soo confused :( my friends told me to keep my options open dw, habang di pako kasal..but i feel guilty, dahil super bz bf ko, ganito nangyari saken..:(

[WileECoyote]

[QUOTE=TempestRider]guys, i need ur advice..is it possible to love 2 people at the same time?QUOTE]

Based on everything else that you said (that I didn't quote), you are actually asking if it is right. Obviously, it is possible. But, if it is right? When it comes to romantic love and if you believe in fidelity and respecting other people, the answer is, again, obviously, no.

About your boyfriend. All you basically said is that he is busy. You never said you love him or if he loves you. Are you in that point when everything seems dull and you are both taking things for granted?

About your ex. Why did you break up in the first place? Was it a stupid reason that both of your regretted? Or was it a build up of frustrations and problems that you have both now repressed in your minds?

Give more data, please.

[ivygrace]

is it possible to love 2 people at the same time?

reason for my asking this: i think im inlove with my boyfriend but i still love my Ex..i know, im sooo bad..and i feel bad..:(



hi tempestrider...
im sure you've already heard the saying...all is fair in love and war...but the big QUESTION here is...

"who loves who?"

im not in a place to advice here since like you, im also in a dead end with heart matters...what will i say to you is what will i do if im in your place...

first thing first...im gonna ask myself if i really love my boyfriend...
and if i really love him... why i still look for other people's companionship...

if i really love him i know i wouldn't hurt him or betray him in anyway possible...

BUT i do...i still seek for something and hurt him along the way...

maybe that only proves that I REALLY don't love him at all...

this may sound cruel...but that gives me a 99 percent reason to break free from him and find my own happiness...

it will be unfair for him if i will let our relationship go on and then again be unfaithfull to him one way or another...

YOU see girl maybe the old feelings with your ex surface because there's really a problem between you and your guy...no one can decide for you because this is all yours to take...and the only advice i can give is.. take it slow... and weigh your true feelings...

about your ex...one question...
if before haven't worked out, what made you think it would work out now...

sometimes kasi when we looked back in our past...it was the happy memories we tend to remember...take also into consideration the reason that made you part ways with your ex...

and if the feelings now are true...start all over again...leave the past behind...dont continue but instead start anew...

whoever you choose, there's someone who'll got hurt, ther's no avoiding that,... but it doesn't make you a bad person...it takes two to tango, you have your own fault and your guy have his... JUST BE TRUE TO YOURSELF and everything would be fair...

AZA AZA FIGHTING!!!

[rockercheez]

love isn't unfair.. cguro yung mga tao lang involve ang unfair.. haay.. :(

[TempestRider]

About your boyfriend. All you basically said is that he is busy. You never said you love him or if he loves you. Are you in that point when everything seems dull and you are both taking things for granted?

About your ex. Why did you break up in the first place? Was it a stupid reason that both of your regretted? Or was it a build up of frustrations and problems that you have both now repressed in your minds?

Give more data, please.

hi ivygrace, thanks for ur advice..it helped me in a way..:)

wileECoyote, thanks for taking the time out to help me..

(1)Abt my BF:i love my boyfriend and i know he loves me too. inspite of his faults, he's been a real good partner to me,,the only problem is that when he's busy, i feel like he's neglecting our relationship..eversince his family migrated and he was left here alone to manage their biz, i felt like i took the backseat,i feel unimportant..he finds time for me, but not as often as i wanted for us to be 2geder..i told him he shouldn't find time, instead, he should MAKE time for me (these days, he rarely tx, saying i shud understand coz he's got alot of responsibilities now)..understand ko un point nya,but what about me?!..i was feelin down when my ex got into the picture..

(2)Abt my Ex:we never really broke up..i just decyded to stay away from him since at that time, i didn't really know if we're 'on' or he's just playing wid me..he's into drugs when i met him..he's doing it when we were still in our so-called 'relationship' and i hated that about him so i decided to jus leave him and never say 'goodbye'...i ignored his msgs, fon kols hoping that he'll soon forget me..then, 2 years ago, i learned from our friend that he's not here anymore, i never really cared, i thot wala na talaga sya until a week ago when he called, dmting na daw sya and he wanted to see me..i duno, maybe it's only out of spite that i decided to meet up with him ( i was with my cuz hu's also his friend)..i was surprysed when i saw him again last week..he changed alot, he told me he's been 'clean' and intends to stay dat way for gud..he said he's not going to do stupid things dis tym so we cud make it work daw cz we never broke up..he told me he still loves me daw, he wants to marry me daw, na kahit ayko na skanya, he won't let me go, he refuse to believe i have a bf..shux talaga! ewan ko ba, maybe i just missed him cz dat time, feelin ko love ko pa rin talaga sya...un lang..i think im going to see him again..i duno, im soo confused..hope u cud enlighten me on this..don't wanna make the wrong decision..im not sure i cud give up my bf, we've been thru alot..bt wat about my Ex?daming changes sa lyf nya and mejo kakatuwa rin cz im still part of his future..:o

[WileECoyote]

TempestRider,

I think you and your bf have something that should be worked on better. What kind of job do you do and what kind of things can you both do to feel each other more? Do you take the initiative to text since he is so busy? Tell him that you want a simple reply sometimes.

As for your ex, you didn't have closure. That would be the problem. Nothing was clear. Now, he's back with the attention you want. But how well do you know each other? That he doesn't believe you probably means he's still not completely sane (and drug users are more insane than average).

[deCadena]

A choice has to be made. The truth behind this fact is that you are going to be the one to lives with that decision. Think of the scenarios that would arise. It's a hard choice but you have to make it nonetheless. One is bound to get hurt and when it all boils down. It is definitely up to you.

[tamwenski]

hi i'm new to this thread...:) jz hoping that the following is of help to you;) :

love is unfair? NAH...love is FAIR in its precious ways...love makes the world go round...love never ever say i'm sorry...love is honest, kind, peaceful, etcetera...etcetera...but you should not say it is UNFAIR...it is the ACCEPTANCE OF THE TRUTH that is unfair to every individual...if there is no acceptance...reality bites...OUUUCCHH!!!:mad:
Take for instance, my old friend already knows that her bf turned lax in their relationship...from this (there is something wrong) ...women as we are, our instincts are strong...right?... yet that friend of mine still go on with that relationship...she keeps holding on even at the point that the bf may or may not contact her or whatever...she keeps holding on because of the ADVICE of another female friend:"don't start the argument of what is wrong between you two because it would be a disgrace on the side of the male to start the news of breaking up to a female. male never say "this relationship is over" first...as a gentleman (daw), males are waiting for the females to do so." Because the girl is afraid to end the relationship...she jz keep her mouth shut...what happened?...she's taken for granted.

this is the example of REFUSING acceptance of the reality/truth!!! but you know what?...if one can accept that this particular person is not for you...your HEART is so FREE!!!:D ...Life must go on and on and on and on...

HAVE A GUD DAY!!!

[illuminati]

I think when people say love is unfair, they're not referring to love the emotion but rather their own love life. When people say life is unfair, I guess it depends on what you mean by life. If you're referring to life as everything that happens to people then I guess life can be unfair but it doesn't mean that life is always unfair.

[TempestRider]

TempestRider,

I think you and your bf have something that should be worked on better. What kind of job do you do and what kind of things can you both do to feel each other more? Do you take the initiative to text since he is so busy? Tell him that you want a simple reply sometimes.

As for your ex, you didn't have closure. That would be the problem. Nothing was clear. Now, he's back with the attention you want. But how well do you know each other? That he doesn't believe you probably means he's still not completely sane (and drug users are more insane than average).

WileECoyote,

Thanks for ur advice,i appreciate it..yes, i always tx my bf, but the sad thing is, he doesnt even have the time to txback bcoz he soo darn bz..im hurt, it makes me feel neglected, unwanted, unimportant and unloved..i already told him thousands of times that all i want is for him to tx me whenever we're not together but he always slips back to his old ways again..I guess we have to work more on that..i love my bf, we've been thru so much and for that, i know i will never give him up for my ex..ur ryt, my ex and i didnt end in the ryt way, i gez thats the reason y he keeps on bugging me until now, he thinks we can start again to where we've left..im afraid to hurt him so i wanna run away from him again, im thinkin of changin my #..i know i'm being unfair to both of them..my ex tells me everyday that he's been living 'clean', he's not doing 'D' anymore and that he is not going back to his old ways again, but hu's to say that? it still remains to be seen, i dont trust him anymore, but the thing is, i cant tell it straight to his face:( i gez its bcoz he told me few days back that if he sees me with another guy, " pagbubuhulin daw nya kame ", (his own words:o )..i wanted for us to part ways in a nice way but with my ex, is it possible?i really hope so..til now, he thinks im still his girl and the bad part is, di ko sya kontra becoz im afraid of him.

[WileECoyote]

im afraid of him.

I think that's what it boils down to.

Well, since you're an optimist who takes a raincoat, I'd have this guy checked out. He's basically acting psycho when he mentioned how he'd react if he saw you with someone else. Best be on the safe side. ;)

Unless, of course, you can make it clear to him that it's over. Maybe make him meet your boyfriend...As a wake up call to him and your boyfriend.

[TempestRider]

WileECoyote,

thanks.it's gonna be hard for me to hurt my ex ( i really want for us to stay friends), but i gez in our situation, i have no other choice. in the end, i would have to choose between the 2, and the sad part is, somebody's gonna get hurt..they will meet at the right place and time..just not right now when my ex is still acting weird..do u think there's a nice way of telling someone that u don't love them the same way as before? i don't want him to hate me, or to go back to his old 'life' becoz of me..he told me he doesn't know what to do if i leave him this time ( he txts me everyday from the time he wakes up til the time he sleeps.sometimes i tx him, sometimes i don't)..can we really be FRIENDS? i honestly hope we could be after this..:o

[WileECoyote]

do u think there's a nice way of telling someone that u don't love them the same way as before?
he told me he doesn't know what to do if i leave him this time


There is no nice way.

Sounds like a guilt-tripper. Have a bias here, though. This guy reminds me of someone I really, really, really do not like. :mad: I won't be able to be fair regarding this guy. :o

[TempestRider]

There is no nice way.

Sounds like a guilt-tripper. Have a bias here, though. This guy reminds me of someone I really, really, really do not like. :mad:

yeah,,,i already told him that i love another guy and he told me he's hurt and that he's really sad ryt now..:o maybe, guilt is wats driving me bcz of what he told me b4, that if we don't end up with each oder, that if i leav him again, he wouldn't know what to do with his life...duno y, i shouldn't feel this way ryt?:mad: